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About chriscashell

I have been working in IT for most industries during my career and delivering change through solutions combining process re-engineering and software systems. This has involved taking a disparate group of people to form project teams and setting out on a mission to change the business and drive it forward to meet compelling goals. Building and being part of a successful team is a great experience and seeing organizations and individuals embrace change is a rewarding experience. I want to share my insights into those experiences and thoughts and find out what others believe can make change fun and enjoyable.

Our Pledge ….

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I wrote this some time ago to try and capture what i would pledge in a relationship – would you and your partner sign??

Our Pledge

We pledge ourselves to a partnership built on trust, honesty, respect, understanding, compassion, commitment, patience and most of all love.

We are committed

• to each other and our families
• to keeping our love strong
• to being an example of a great relationship by being ‘together, together’
• to knowing and seeking out what makes each other happy and working on it daily

We will :

• resolve our differences before going to bed
• continue to talk with each other regardless of the subject and even if we do not feel like it
• continue to discover new things about each other
• make each other a priority in our daily lives
• greet each other with passion and desire
• encourage each other in the things that make us happy
• recognize we have flaws, accept them and embrace the positives
• deal with conflict in a productive manner being kind and gentle, never shaming or blaming
• always support each other and will never let each other feel alone
• keep each other warm at night
• share our love of coffee, music, reading and art continually
• express our inner most thoughts, feelings and desires to each other and no one else

Finally

We will never forget why we love each other and how we fell in love

To show up or not..

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So brave to show up present, so cruel to not.
To feel and relinquish control and yet to then lose it.
It changed in a matter of seconds, ripped my insides and there is no cure.
My mind before so calm and tranquil now won’t let me sleep.
It is one more blow that will lead to my hearts destruction.

That feeling…

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Can you feel the excitement under the surface…
It will come as a surprise and creep up on you.

You cant force it or rush it even though we try.

What you can do is be open and welcoming and above all ready
When it comes it will inspire, transform and change you from the inside.

It will grow and make you full and nourish your very core
It will spread throughout and renew you.

Today you are my music…

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Did you ever put on some music and remember when…
You get a glimpse of the first time of hearing…
Memories of long ago and for a split second you are back there…

And then u think what about now – what great music is making my memories now…
Life is made up of moments that stay with us and i hope…
My music today is…… you

Random thoughts…..

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I was searching through previous writings and came across this collection 🙂

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Lean closer i will keep you warm
Lean closer I will hold you,
Lean closer I will kiss you,
Lean closer still and I will never let go.

The kiss changes everything,
Clear thoughts are gone – reason thrown to the winds to float away,
Lost in the moment, anything possible
Take me away and don’t let me return.

I close my eyes and trace your face in every detail.
I miss the chance to run my fingers along the contours.
To explore each small piece that tells the story of your sorrow and joy.
I only wish I created some of that happiness before you left.

We hang on so long hoping ….
Is the time spent in joy or will anxiety and fear win out.
The battlefield defenses go up and we prepare.
What a waste of energy –
Oh
To embrace rather than push back,
To open rather than close,
To be present rather than absent,
To live rather than stagnate.

Only one life to make it right.
Is it going to be a life of what ifs or what I choose.
Is it time to let others drive or take control.
Come be my co pilot 🙂

My heart collapses in on itself – it feels small and helpless and you take it and breath life back in

Try another approach…

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The need to try something new – step out and slide that foot onto thin ice
Don’t accept the easy route – be prepared to work – for it will be worth it
Change the approach and believe in it – listen to friends and accept the risk
She’s out there and today she is closer than yesterday…

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As you look for that deep down connection with someone and struggling to find it, do you wonder if that unknown ability to connect and feel lost and yet found in someone else is maybe dying within due to hurt, disappointment or fear.

Maybe the hurt the last time made it hid for safety

Maybe the disappointment was too much to risk again

Maybe the fear will never be overcome…

Last tears…

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Will I shed those tears, as I enter the last chapters of my life, for that lost love – the one that was meant to be but slipped through my hands – or will those tears be for finally finding that complimentary being who will hold me until my breath no longer enters this universe

Searching for you…

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I look across the frozen pure lake and the many sights and look for you.
In the woods, between the trees and under the fallen trunks.
In the park by the swings and slides and under the bridge…

And then I slowly lift my head up and realize that I’m looking in the wrong place and the wrong time
You are out there somewhere, breathing in life and everything around you – are you thinking of me?
You are out there with the same hope I have and enjoying the possibility – are you hoping for me?

You are out there – please find us

Constant longing….

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Random thoughts when thinking of someone who has seeped inside your very being and is a constant …

Wanting for you is bitter sweet,
A constant longing waiting to be fulfilled,
An unrelenting desire unsatisfied,
A happiness waiting for ecstasy,
One waiting to turn into two.

Desiring you comes simply by looking at you,
Loving you comes simply by being with you,
Forever joy comes simply by life with you.

The memory of our encounter slips away.
I cling to it like my life depends on it.
It fades and i want to revive it,
Suddenly awaken with your fragrance that lingers.