We have so little time to give to someone special but it feels like we are always on the look out for the next best thing – even when we search for our partner.
The person we want to relax next too, enjoy the simple things in life. But we swap that for a short interaction, a brief introduction, a single moment when really what we want is a collection of memories with that someone special
I watch the light appear slowly in the early hours of the morning and another turning of natures clock sees the light grow less each day through this season, and i continue to move with this cycle.
And as we change in our appearance so we change unseen inside and if we listen to ourselves closely and take time to let our thoughts wander we can begin to understand.
I listen and contemplate those changes and slowly it dawns on me that the cycle of time is impacting what I desire and what I want to be. I am moving towards that complimentary being, I am moving towards the understanding of me and the finding of you.
You are providing me a depth to explore, a wanting to grow into you and find us.
Your life moves whether you do or not and the road it follows can take many turns. Too many times we wait at those forks in the road for something to happen. I have become aware that waiting only sees you stall and traffic pass you by.
Stalling in my world means waiting to find my last true love in life. However, this can ensure a lack of making memories with friends and family.
So let life continue and let me travel my road. When that person I am waiting for arrives, then let it be at the right junction and point on the map.
I was watching a UK show last night when the main character is bringing his dad home from hospital and his dad wants to sit and look out into the ocean. He tells his son he just wants to sit and then says to his son “You don’t look do you? You don’t look at the world. You just drive straight through it. Stop. And look.” His dad heads to sit down and his wife says she will sit with him. Next his dad turns and says “Find someone to sit with you. You’re not strong enough to do it on your own. Nobody is. Find someone to sit with you.”
Sometimes the true reflection of your intimacy and closeness with your partner is being able to know they will just sit with you. For those with someone to sit next too – enjoy and dont take for granted.
I continue my search…
I wrote this some time ago to try and capture what i would pledge in a relationship – would you and your partner sign??
Our Pledge
We pledge ourselves to a partnership built on trust, honesty, respect, understanding, compassion, commitment, patience and most of all love.
We are committed
• to each other and our families
• to keeping our love strong
• to being an example of a great relationship by being ‘together, together’
• to knowing and seeking out what makes each other happy and working on it daily
We will :
• resolve our differences before going to bed
• continue to talk with each other regardless of the subject and even if we do not feel like it
• continue to discover new things about each other
• make each other a priority in our daily lives
• greet each other with passion and desire
• encourage each other in the things that make us happy
• recognize we have flaws, accept them and embrace the positives
• deal with conflict in a productive manner being kind and gentle, never shaming or blaming
• always support each other and will never let each other feel alone
• keep each other warm at night
• share our love of coffee, music, reading and art continually
• express our inner most thoughts, feelings and desires to each other and no one else
Finally
We will never forget why we love each other and how we fell in love
The degrees by which you do things defines you. I was thinking how we all have the same things in our lives to a greater or lesser degree – it is how we approach them and the importance we put on them that truly explains us. Family, friends, exercise, our pets, our favorite teams, music – all areas we have a greater or lesser degree invested in.
Some hold their job and the effort they put into it above their family. Others will do anything for friends regardless of the cost. None are wrong it just tells us more about the person we are looking at.
My kids I surround completely and am there if they need me and when I am with them I envelope them
My family is every degree and I miss those I am far away from but they are part of me
My partner will be inside my pores and I will never let them slip from my consciousness
My friends, those who are truly friends, will only have to ask,and sometimes not, and I will be there
My Complimentary Being 